OK, so I did absolutely nothing on the whole wardrobe-renovating mission this weekend, but I did have a minor revelation. It may seem obvious to readers, but for me it's been a puzzle, so here it is.
I went to a small barbecue at a friend's house last night, and I was wearing a nice, fitted brown corduroy blazer and jeans with kind of a cool long sleeved t-shirt (buttons at the neck) underneath, and I found myself feeling rather self-conscious about my blazer. I realized after a little while that my feelings had nothing to do with the outfit itself - I looked fine - but rather with the environment. My friend is a woman who dresses ultra-feminine. She's latina and she worked in fashion, and she's way into the flowy stuff, and accessories. When I'm around women like that I always feel a little bit like a red-headed stepchild, or maybe an awkward prepubescent boy.
But you know what? I'm not ultra-feminine, so there's no reason I should feel like my style should reflect that sensibility. This mission is going to be about pairing items that make me feel good, and help me to reflect my actual personality (not the ones I sometimes wish I had), which is a little bit nerdy, I guess. I feel great when I put on a dress and glam out, but there is a time and a place for that in my book, and my everyday style needs to be easy and humble. It's always been that way, so now I just need to find a way to make it look good, and to feel awesome about it. Clearly I have some psychological habits to break before I get there.
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